Not funny - warning rant

HER82 · #1 03-01-2005, 04:21 PM

ok I know black humour is sometimes needed when an event is tragic etc.. but some events are taboo when it comes to jokes.

September 11 and even more so the Tsunami Tragedy.. really are not jokes topics or if some one must make light of it... do it in private!

An event which thousands died and are still dying mostly children is NOT funny... I would hope that the lady I work with who sat by her phone for days hoping her sister,brother inlaw & their children survived does not hear these jokes, and I hope the friends I have who were sent over there facing the job of retreiving bodies for indentification do not hear them, and the parents who lost all their children do not hear them.

Some things are just not funny... and hoping I do not log on to JC & see the jokes like on some other forums about the Tsunami.

Sashyre · #2 03-01-2005, 05:27 PM

Her82, whilst I understand where you are coming from, remember that humour is some peoples way of coping with a tragic event. Not everyone wears their heart on their sleeve. I am sure those inventing these jokes are compasionate deep inside, but use humour as a relief valve - we are all differant and cope differantly in situations. The human race consists of many differant traits which is good, if we were all the same, imagine how boring the world would be

I hope the lady you work with finds her family alive and well. I am sure the jokes are not directed at anyone personally. What I found abhorrent the other night on irc was a chatter saying he wished all the Indonesians were wiped out as they are a bad race.

What has happened is an enormous tradegy, many have lost loved ones and many more don't know if loved ones are still alive. I think it has touched everyone world wide in one way or another. It would be nice to think the world would sit up now and stop all the wars and crap, and together as an entire race, rebuild those cities and learn from this that we are all one. The reality is that won't happen.

Found out yesterday that two friends of mine are missing in Indonesia. I only hope they are stranded somewhere and will make contact with someone at home soon.

Torana · #3 03-01-2005, 06:45 PM

I will have to agree with HER82. I mean, why do people joke about this bullshit??? Like, wtf is wrong with their heads? If someone ever told a joke about this to my face, I'd turn around and give 'em such a belting!

Sashyre · #4 03-01-2005, 07:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Torana

I will have to agree with HER82. I mean, why do people joke about this bullshit??? Like, wtf is wrong with their heads? If someone ever told a joke about this to my face, I'd turn around and give 'em such a belting!

See I wonder what is wrong with your head, having to resort to violence to solve a problem. You could choose the alternative, tell them politey you find it offensive and walk away.

Troy711 · #5 04-01-2005, 07:53 PM

people will joke about anything but making a joke doesnt mean they dont give a shit

AirStrike · #6 04-01-2005, 10:34 PM

See now I am the oposite there is nothing I can't stand more then ppl who take them selves so seriously. Nothing is ment by it, thats why it is a 'joke'......

Ill just get my

ready shall I.......
AirStrike

Bax · #7 04-01-2005, 11:37 PM

Agreeing with Airstrike.. I can understand the losses people have gone through. And how its going to take alot of time to recover.

But people grieve and deal with things in different ways. You can't tell me you've never made a joke about something tragic. If you have on the other hand then damn you'd be a fun person to be around..

I've got a sick sense of humour, I make jokes about things, but at all times I have a huge amount of respect and understanding about whats gone on. And I'd never in any way deliberately do it to take advantage of them.

You people don't like the ones that make light of a situation. We dont like people that are always so tight assed and have no sense of humour.

However Her82... Having said that, I'll not say anything on these boards. And best wishes and condolenses go out to your workmate.

beckrey · #8 05-01-2005, 10:02 AM

I think it is disgusting if people make jokes about this sort of thing.People should think of others feelings & think how they would feel if someone they know had died in some sort of tragedy & all of a sudden people are making these jokes.Eventually the families involved are going to come across these jokes.

i would certainly hope that none start showing up on here.

maybe the moderators could consider banning anyone that puts any shit up here.

like what was threatened about a cat because this is far far worse than what happened to the cat

DJ Majah · #9 05-01-2005, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by beckrey

like what was threatened about a cat because this is far far worse than what happened to the cat

Depends. If youre talking about the loss of life, yes. If youre talking about the incident itself, no - this is a natural thing, natural causes, natural affects. The cat was tortured, much worse.

Generally though, its nothing offensive.

Julie · #10 05-01-2005, 11:25 AM

I am in total agreement with DJ Majah here. As tragic as they were the tsunamis were a natural disaster. If people want to joke about it let them, just don't laugh along with them. What needs to be realised is that nothing is sacred when it comes to jokes. It doesn't mean I find them funny or appropriate. But who died and made anyone here joke nazis saying what should not be allowed. Just add these to the millions of insensitive, poor taste, inappropriate jokes around the world eg. sept 11, racist, cot death, war, rape, child molestation- read michael jackson jokes........ the list goes on and on. Seems most jokes would be offensive to some people.

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like what was threatened about a cat because this is far far worse than what happened to the cat

Well what happened to the cat can not be compared to the tsunamis, its like chalk and cheese, a callous act of torture by evil inhuman 'humans' or a freak tragic natural disaster. There is no parallel. Also I might add the story of the cat was not in the joke section. Also suprisingly I am yet to see one tsunami joke, and I have asked many others and they haven't heard any either, so I don't think its a huge problem.

UnleesoncedMinkey · #11 05-01-2005, 09:27 PM

The man I love is missing in Sri Lanka. There has been absolutely no word of his whereabouts and there is nothing I can do about it, except wait. While I'm waiting, which is a living, breathing hell on earth, jokes like these make me laugh... it does not mean I do not find the situation horrendous or that I am cold or heartless... Come to my world, live my pain and then understand that the only way I can deal with it is to laugh at it. My turn to wail and scream may come in it's own good time. Until then, I thank god for these jokes.

Sashyre · #12 05-01-2005, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by UnleesoncedMinkey

The man I love is missing in Sri Lanka. There has been absolutely no word of his whereabouts and there is nothing I can do about it, except wait. While I'm waiting, which is a living, breathing hell on earth, jokes like these make me laugh... it does not mean I do not find the situation horrendous or that I am cold or heartless... Come to my world, live my pain and then understand that the only way I can deal with it is to laugh at it. My turn to wail and scream may come in it's own good time. Until then, I thank god for these jokes.

Thanks for sharing this with us and giving those who think jokes are heartless and cruel another perspective to look at.

Guys, I know the person who wrote this - she is a very close friend and dear to my heart and I would not do anything to cause her hurt or pain, yet I have been forwarding her some jokes about this tragedy that have had both of us in fits of laughter. As I posted earlier, I have 2 friends, whom this poster also knows well, missing in Indonesia. Our way of coping right now is to look at the lighter side of life whilst praying for the return of our friends and loved ones.

Bec · #13 06-01-2005, 06:36 PM

I think it goes both ways.
I make and respect jokes in horrible situations, as do many other people. I don't think there is anything wrong with sad humour, as long as you know who you're talking to and that they can both deal with it and not take it the wrong way. However, I don't condone it in a public internet forum. Tom and Dick may enjoy the joke, but Harry might get rightfully offended and upset.
So basically....you should know your audience.

PS Wishing you guys and all involved the best of luck with finding your loved ones.