Problems with the ex...

[Ozzie]

Thanks for all the feedback

[Goon]

Let the courts decided mate, just be ready to tell your half of the story and what u want!!!!...nothing more u can do but talk to a lawyer/legal aid if u really want, possible ask the csa "child support agency" questions about your rights..

just remember states have diff laws n rules..so look into that...

[jujibelly]

Well your ex sounds kinda reasonable why not ask her if she can open an account that you deposit X amount of money that you two have agreed upon.

If that fails I would be speaking to child support to see the legal things you can do, I mean it's still your child. People that don't want to pay are FORCED to pay so talk to them.

As last resort you could take her to court and have some schedule made up eg you spending the holidays with her etc.

That's my opinion shit happens mate, my parents were also divorced when I was around 12 so I know the feeling of a disoriented family lol. Just don't be a wanker of a father few years down the track.

[betts]

I have not been through an experience even remotely similar to this, but if I was, I would try and keep things out of the courts. It sounds like you and your (now) ex still have a good relationship with each other, and taking her to court could damage things between you, especially if one person is ends up being disadvantaged by the courts decision. I agree with jujibelly, try and set up a bank account that you can deposit money into, I can't see why any single parent would be against that kind of setup. You sound like a lovely bloke who really cares for your ex and your little girl, hope it all works out well for you.

[ClairBear]

I think you will find you have no option with regard to child support, regardless of the surname of your child you will have to pay it.

You have rights too. So many women use children as bargaining tools in these situations. All ready this woman is telling you your daughter will forget you in time. If your ex was a nice person as you seem to think she would ensure that your daughter did not forget you. Just because you cannot be there in her life all the time you can phone her, send letters, cards, even record stuff for her to listen to.

[elemeNtz]

if you want to contribute you can make your bank automatically take out x dollars and deposit it into your ex's bank account every payday

[alien]

LOL, dont forget what i've said to you already Oz!

[Ozzie]

I would rather all funds go through support though so she cant turn around later on and say I'm not contributing.
Even if I could create an account for my daughter and add funds each week until she needs it

[Ozzie]

LOL, dont forget what i've said to you already Oz!

Yeah I know mate. Im not giving up no matter what. thats for sure

[ClairBear]

I would rather all funds go through support though so she cant turn around later on and say I'm not contributing.
Even if I could create an account for my daughter and add funds each week until she needs it

Just contact the CSA and ask what your obligations are and how to go about having the money paid to her.

Please don't drop out of your daughter's life, all kids need their dad around, even if it is a distance thing.

[Troy711]

Judging by the edit with the first post you have all the info you need. I'll close this but if you need it opened again drop me a PM