jeolous kid - what to do?

[jphanna]

Hey I been going out with a my new lady for 6 months now. between me and her we havnt had ANY hassles at all….but her kid (15 years old!!!) sulks everytime we organise anything. I mean anything. He sulks from the minute we are all together till the minute he gets home alone with his mum. He follows us around the house, the garden, the garage, he wont bloody leave us alone for 2 seconds out of his sight.

On the weekend we went mountain bike riding AND jetskiing all in perfect weather conditions. Me and his mum had a great time, except he sulked every minute until the second he got home, then he snapped out of it. his mum asked why he is so happy all of a sudden…and his words were……

I GOT NO COMPETITION NOW!

What the hell do you do in this situation?

[Cúl-Báire]

Not a great deal you can do about it mate; just try to make the little one feel more involved I guess, they will come around eventually when they realize you aint going to give up because of his sulking.

Edit: I thought the above post said 15 Months old... But it's 15 years old; In that case ignore the above advise, smack him in the chops and tell him to grow the **** up! LOL. (actually I'd probably stick with the above advice)

[Grennan]

Smack him. Meh theres not much you can do really. Hes 15, hes going to be a little shit. My Mum and Step Dad went through the same thing with my little brother. They got together when he was 15ish, hes now 18 and hes fine with them, hes in puberty, everything pisses him off

[MasterOfReality]

Or get him on his own and simply tell him you are going out with his mother whether he likes it or not, and he better get used to the idea.

[dropkick Murphy]

Wow, he's got a serious ****ing case of "mommy's boy"
My solution: Don't take him with you when you go out, ship him off to his dad's place of something. That way he will hopefully learn to appreciate his mum and the time he spends with her.

Whats a 15 year old doing hanging around at home with his mum anyway? Isn't he supposed to be off getting on the piss with his mates, experimenting with drugs and wrapping ford lasers around trees? Its what I was doing at 15.

[BXHD]

maybe take him alone out somewhere for fun.. like take him to see a movie, go play at the arcade or bowling or something and get to know him better and he may love u and want u around
better then yelling at him or hitting him as that wouldnt go down very well haha.

[jphanna]

Wow, he's got a serious ****ing case of "mommy's boy"
My solution: Don't take him with you when you go out, ship him off to his dad's place of something. That way he will hopefully learn to appreciate his mum and the time he spends with her.

Whats a 15 year old doing hanging around at home with his mum anyway? Isn't he supposed to be off getting on the piss with his mates, experimenting with drugs and wrapping ford lasers around trees? Its what I was doing at 15.

his dad doesnt give a rats AZZ about him and thats why he is hanging on to MUMMY. he cant see that his sulking is ruining her life.....she is not allowed to laugh and have fun with any other person.

[minux]

buy him a blow up doll and porn, kid wont leave his room for weeks.

[hsvpunk]

punch him in the balls.

and **** her off, as she has baggage.

[BXHD]

buy him a blow up doll and porn, kid wont leave his room for weeks.

LMFAOOO!!!! hahahahahaha do it!

[06vzcalais]

buy him a blow up doll and porn, kid wont leave his room for weeks.

lmao, kudos to you

[ruffiano]

Tried taking him out just you and him? Spend a bit of one on one time with him, let him see that you're not such a bad guy? I had teh same issues when I was dating a girl a little while about with a 10 year old daughter. Made an effort to connect with her, got along with her, and the problem was solved.

[dropkick Murphy]

Hmmm, no father figure, he probably lacks confidence in himself and therefore has to hide behind mummy's apron so to speak. I'm guessing he doesn't have a car, or a girlfriend or a job?

Do you know of anyone who could set him up with work during school holidays or weekends? Having his own source of income will boost his self confidence.

I know from experience that 15 is an awkward age, very much a transition period. But if he lacks confidence in himself you may have to be the father figure and force him to gain some independence.

[minux]

I know from experience that 15 is an awkward age,

Really? I was never 15 so can't back you up on that

[Cúl-Báire]

buy him a blow up doll and porn, kid wont leave his room for weeks.

I LOL'ed!..

Top idea Minux, I can't image the lady friend would be too appreciative of that though.lol.

[dropkick Murphy]

Really? I was never 15 so can't back you up on that

Smartarse.

For some of you old****s 15 was probably too long ago to remember. In fact for some of you really old****s your own names are too long remember

But yeah, when I was 15 my parents were splitting and there was another woman involved, it wasn't pleasant for someone like myself who was always really close to both parents but then was essentially forced to pick a side.

[BXHD]

**puts on flame suit, sits on fence for lulz show**

[STEALTHY™]

He probably just feels threatened that your going to take his mum away from him.

Best bet is to spend some time with just him, and show thats your not the big bad man he thinks your are (and, there wont be a quick fix to this, he wont like you after just one outing etc)

[vp_commo]

Monetary Bribe?

[coolngroovy]

Doesn't he have a Playstation?

[wildss]

+ 1 for the porn idea, it will work well
or just leave him at home

[jphanna]

Doesn't he have a Playstation?

his idea of a big weekend is playing X-BOX in the lounge, with his mum watching him.....

[Tim Smtih]

his dad doesnt give a rats AZZ about him and thats why he is hanging on to MUMMY. he cant see that his sulking is ruining her life.....she is not allowed to laugh and have fun with any other person.

So it sounds like this kid has no life and will continue to do so unless his mother puts him in his place. Do you wish to have a long relationship with this woman? If so this issue should be sorted now before it ends up messing with your relationship. Suggest counselling, perhaps forcing the delinquent to face his issues rather than wanting to remain "mummies boy" forever. My mum kicked me out of home when i finished high school, and i'm grateful for it.

Also you could just whisper in his ear "guess what i did to your mum last night?" And walk away laughing.

[STEALTHY™]

So it sounds like this kid has no life and will continue to do so unless his mother puts him in his place. Do you wish to have a long relationship with this woman? If so this issue should be sorted now before it ends up messing with your relationship. Suggest counselling, perhaps forcing the delinquent to face his issues rather than wanting to remain "mummies boy" forever. My mum kicked me out of home when i finished high school, and i'm grateful for it.

Also you could just whisper in his ear "guess what i did to your mum last night?" And walk away laughing.

I lol'd for real.

[ClairBear]

He is 15 - he is still a child in some respect and needs his mum. The new boy friend is threatening the relationship he has with his mum in his eyes. He is probably scared he may be pushed aside (as some cruel people here have already suggested) as he is used to having mum to himself.

Telling him to grow up, not including him in some activities or generally exagerating the feelings of being pushed out of Mum's life is the worst thing you can do. I have seen first hand the affect on teenagers who have had a man walk into mum's life and then been rejected when mum chooses one over the other.

The only solution is for Mum to sit and have a D&M with the lad, and ensure they still have their own quality time and outings. Sadly people look at teenagers like they are grown up and can deal with grown up feelings, understand for instance that Mum needs someone in her life too, but puberty is a hard time as you still need your parent(s) support and guidance and above all to feel loved and wanted.

I bet half you callous boys in here banging on about being a mummy's boy or to stop being a whiny child would do the exact same thing in his situation. Everyone needs their mum at times. It's not nice to see Mum slipping away.