Is my ex able to take my furniture??

[jay_wr8]

Hey guys and girls,
I've recently told my missus of 3 n a half years that i want to break up with her.
She's been staying at her mums for the past week and a half and sent me a msg last night asking what she could have.
I told her she could have what was hers and we would work something out with the stuff we bought together.
She said Ok we'll work it out when i come get my stuff.

Anyways, i know legally since we've been living together for just over 2 years she is able to take half my stuff, which is only t.v, stereo, surround sound and some more.

What worries me is that I've made all of the furniture that is in the house like, t.v cabinets, coffee table, buffet cabinet and so on, and its worth a fair bit of money but is priceless to me.

So...My question is
If she decides to turn nasty and tries to take the furniture that i have made myself, do i have to let her?

sorry for the rant, any info would be great,
Thanks in advance,
Jay

[danja]

I'm no lawyer, but I would expect the laws are framed in terms of "property", not "property bought from IKEA only". If you bought the materials to build the furniture while you were together she may have some claim to them, though if you were to dispute it the fact that you supplied the labour would probably work in your favour.

My advice would be to try and keep the relationship civilised and not get it to the point where she's trying to screw you out of your stuff. Talk it through with her, stay calm, be nice, give her what is reasonable and hopefully she'll be happy with that.

[vkberlina]

If she gets nasty Cut everything in half and give her half and take your half

Scott

[jay_wr8]

Thanks danja, i figured thats how it worked, as for materials bought well i paid for everything but we were together so that'll be interesting,

I will be trying to keep the whole break up thing as civilized as possible and have already offered her the fridge and couches in exchange for the bbq and some bed sheets lol,
but knowing her the cops will have to be on speed dial incase i look at her the wrong way

[jay_wr8]

If she gets nasty Cut everything in half and give her half and take your half

Scott

that thought has crossed my mind, lol

[Garth]

seek legal advice. seeing you lived together for a period of 6 months or more, she is entiltled to a set amount, providing ofcourse you dont work out anything before hand, she is entitled to half of everything, regardless of what it is. i think something different applies to what you came into the relationship with, but yeah, half of everything, this includes your super, your savings, your car, your socks, your tooth brush, everything. so if you dont want to get screwed over, seek legal council, that is the best advice i can give you.

[PaRaDoX]

If you don't keep things civilised she could ask for half your testicles...

[minux]

If she gets nasty Cut everything in half and give her half and take your half

Scott

Yeah, smart move. Courts will then make you pay cash in the amount of coverage.

Thanks danja, i figured thats how it worked, as for materials bought well i paid for everything but we were together so that'll be interesting,

I will be trying to keep the whole break up thing as civilized as possible and have already offered her the fridge and couches in exchange for the bbq and some bed sheets lol,
but knowing her the cops will have to be on speed dial incase i look at her the wrong way

Take it to the courts. If you contributed most and can prove it, she will get less. However, after 6 months you are legally classed as a "defacto" and she is entitled to a proportion of assetts etc.

[PaRaDoX]

Yeah, smart move. Courts will then make you pay cash in the amount of coverage.



Take it to the courts. If you contributed most and can prove it, she will get less. However, after 6 months you are legally classed as a "defacto" and she is entitled to a proportion of assetts etc.

It almost a double standard, Another stupid law that hardly makes sense.

[fuzzy2308]

Another stupid law that hardly makes sense.

welcome to the magical land of oz

[satos]

If she gets nasty Cut everything in half and give her half and take your half

Scott

A friends mate actually bulldozed half his house when his ex turned nasty on him and wanted everything.
Everything in the house including the mortgage was paid by him.
True story.

[PaRaDoX]

A friends mate actually bulldozed half his house when his ex turned nasty on him and wanted everything.
Everything in the house including the mortgage was paid by him.
True story.

True Idiot.

[50LTRv8]

Yeah, smart move. Courts will then make you pay cash in the amount of coverage.



Take it to the courts. If you contributed most and can prove it, she will get less. However, after 6 months you are legally classed as a "defacto" and she is entitled to a proportion of assetts etc.

How do you prove the value of something made, not purchased?

[PaRaDoX]

How do you prove the value of something made, not purchased?

The same way you'd prove the value of something purchased.

With receipts for materials. Failing that a quote on raw materials & labour to build a similar item by a carpenter...

I watch too much Judge Judy.

[fuzzy2308]

How do you prove the value of something made, not purchased?

materials and labour?

[ari666]

after 6 months you are legally classed as a "defacto" and she is entitled to a proportion of assetts etc.

man, i wish it were that easy for immigration, my missus and i have lived together (shared rental agreements etc shared bills) for 2.5 years and they are STILL asking for more proof that we have been together longer than a year?!?! its getting to the stage i will have to marry her to keep her here. yikes.

[minux]

ari, thats the problem with smuggling in thailand made dishwashers

[PaRaDoX]

man, i wish it were that easy for immigration, my missus and i have lived together (shared rental agreements etc shared bills) for 2.5 years and they are STILL asking for more proof that we have been together longer than a year?!?! its getting to the stage i will have to marry her to keep her here. yikes.

What will they think of next? Trying to destroy Australia biggest export industry and sell it as a good thing? oh wait. they're already doing that.

[wana s' charge stock vt]

just build another one, be easyer than going to court. or tell her its hers and she HAS to take it, if she's a bitch she'll just argue and say no i dont want it just to disagree and try too piss ya off.

[ari666]

ari, thats the problem with smuggling in thailand made dishwashers

lol!
.

[50LTRv8]

materials and labour?

That is my point though, labor, the rate of a pro will be vastly different to someone who does it as a hobby.

[Asmodai78]

sell everything you dont want you ex to get her hands on to your parents for say $5 and make a reciept, if she wants half the sale price give her $2.50 and say you sold everything to help with court costs if it goes that way.

[minux]

sell everything you dont want you ex to get her hands on to your parents for say $5 and make a reciept, if she wants half the sale price give her $2.50 and say you sold everything to help with court costs if it goes that way.

Yeah, that really works these days.

[sik_dose]

seek legal advice. seeing you lived together for a period of 6 months or more, she is entiltled to a set amount, providing ofcourse you dont work out anything before hand, she is entitled to half of everything, regardless of what it is. i think something different applies to what you came into the relationship with, but yeah, half of everything, this includes your super, your savings, your car, your socks, your tooth brush, everything. so if you dont want to get screwed over, seek legal council, that is the best advice i can give you.

Thats scary. Root and boot FTW!

[jay_wr8]

Geez garth now you've got me really worried lol, thanks for the advise though, does half of everything include my bank loan? not worried about super cause my boss is dodgy and has only just started paying cause the taxation department found out, and savings can be blown or tripled at the casino

Asmodai78...i like your thinking

sik_dose...this is the plan for the future i think, depending on how this turns out

One more question, If she were to come round this weekend and take her stuff and only her stuff, would she be able to go to a lawyer in say a week and try get some of my stuff successfully?

Thanks for everyones help in this matter its very much appreciated