hmm saw the worst thing ever today...

[gocommygo]

just got back from town... seing one of your best mates dead in a box is the worst thing ive ever had to do its really confronting and final i spose that thats the person a week and a bit ago you were cruzin round with and hangin out with now dead and pale this sucks...

[ucwepn]

Yeah thats f&cked aye. Have a beer for him.

[gocommygo]

im having a bottle of rum for him tomoz

[flyen]

i've had two funerals in the last month
my gran died just under a month ago then three weeks later my nan dies

nans funeral was today
its so hard to sit there while they talk about them and remember good memories you had of them and not get really upset.

take it easy man

[tr3nt]

sorry to hear about your losses guys!

I always try to live life as if today is my last.

[luvmycommodore]

This is true, i really feel for you GCG and flyen. I've been there done that too, cept it was my newborn son.

[SUSPECT]

yea i bet it would b fair sad i havnt had 2 deal with a death yet and i hope i never have 2 deal with a close mates death.....

[Wombat]

Sorry for you loss...

I've always said the "heaviest thing" I ever had to help carry was my beloved sister-in-laws coffin. She was only 26 when a massive asthma attack took her a few years back. It sure hits you hard and makes you think doesn't it when it's someone young?

[semi]

shit, i carries my grandads coffin a few days ago, and that made me think. Cant imagine how much worse it would be for someone young

[minux]

Sorry for you loss...

I've always said the "heaviest thing" I ever had to help carry was my beloved sister-in-laws coffin. She was only 26 when a massive asthma attack took her a few years back. It sure hits you hard and makes you think doesn't it when it's someone young?

That is so well said, i had to do the same thing for a close mate who killed himself. Hardest thing in the world to do.

[bangers]

This is true, i really feel for you GCG and flyen. I've been there done that too, cept it was my newborn son.

I was talking to someone last week who had to bury both kids. worst thing in the world burying a child. i feel for any person that has to go through it. it would have to be harder having not gotten to know your child. There's a cemetery up the road from my house with heaps of kids graves and both my missus and myself can't bear to look at them as we drive past as they make us both sad having got 2 young children of our own. I really feel for you man RIP to all the little children, may God have you now.

[luvmycommodore]

I was talking to someone last week who had to bury both kids. worst thing in the world burying a child. i feel for any person that has to go through it. it would have to be harder having not gotten to know your child. There's a cemetery up the road from my house with heaps of kids graves and both my missus and myself can't bear to look at them as we drive past as they make us both sad having got 2 young children of our own. I really feel for you man RIP to all the little children, may God have you now.

Thanks mate. I would not wish it on my worst enemy. Feeling a bit sensitive about it at the moment. My boy would have been 4 last week

[gocommygo]

yeh, funeral was today... never wanna go therough that again

[luvmycommodore]

Hope you feel a little better soon. Losing a good friend is not something you get over in a hurry.

[jNINE]

Went through it just before christmas - my boyfriends best mate from school (they are/were 34 now) died in a car accident and we went to the viewing. It was surreal and did make you confront your disbelief that it wasn't really happening...The weirdest thing was not that his face was pale and dead and which was badly damaged from the accident..but his hands.. I'll never forgot how they looked.

Will take a while to completely come to terms with, if ever. When ever I see that ad on tele about the people killed in Qld last year, I think that I knew one of them

[bns-sticky]

Not the best thing to go through but they are un a better place now, they have no bills to pay. Sorry in my line of work I NEED a sense of humor otherwise I would go nuts. I'll explain;

Our family owns two companys, one is in the funeral industry and the other makes cars for the industry and the main part of my job is the co-ordination of our vechiles to get peoples loved ones from where ever they may of died with in australia back home. Most of the time it is not too bad cos we deal with the hospitals/coroners/funeral directors but every now and then we deal directly with family and I tell you it is hard when they dont really know what to do even though we know the drills at different places around Aus. As weird as this may sound when I do have contact with a family member either by phone or when I have to do a transfer myself and they thankyou for bring their mum/dad/sis/hus/wife home it gives you a real sense of well being that I have helped that family.

Before I was in the postion I am in now I was a driver, which meant driving anywhere between Mt Isa, Cairns, Brisbane, Sydney, Melb, Adelaide, Broken Hill. I have seen more fatal accidents than i have fingers and toes and that can scare you a bit when you are doing about 300,000kms per year and some of these people are lucky to clock up 50,000kms per year and they are gone. Even worse is when a fatal accident happens in front of you like while I was in Sydney in August last year, an accident on Old Northern Rd.

You will find if you have been to a funeral and it has gotten you down badly you will find that if you have a yarn to some one how you feel you will even at the least feel a little better.

A little off subject sorry.
Ray

[DavidPartay]

My condolences and best wishes to all of you =/

I've lost a grandmother (who I didn't know that well, but nonetheless...) an aunt (who I knew less than my grandma), and two acquaintances, neither of whom I was very close to but you certainly notice when they're gone. I haven't had the experience any of you guys have had though but I have seen the people around me when they died and just seeing how hard it hits (one was a 16 year old girl who died from leukemia) and I'm glad that I haven't personally gone through that with a close friend or relative.

[madmick]

take it easy mate, try to stay up about things.

its easier to say than do, i know.

[sixshooter]

Hang in there mate !