Need some cheering up

[G4orce]

Hey all I am just so down at the moment, The love of my life has just left me. I don't no what to do and I am a mess, I just need some cheering up and I dont no what to do any more.

[Not_An_Abba_Fan]

In the famous words of Chopper "Harden the ### up"...

But seriously, it gets better, time does heal. It may not feel like it now but it will. Surround yourself with friends and go do something that makes you feel good. I always go to Macca's and beat the crap out of Ronald.

[Heffer_Slayer]

Ooooo ****! Man, i know how that feels....ouch man. ouch. Just u need to talk to a good mate about it, heck have a few beers. Go out, have fun. Pimp it. what ever!

Just try not to think about it, it will be hard but as stated above. Time will heal all. Trust me man, im just coming outta the depressin bit and now she wants to talk to me again...

dam women.

Hope everythin gets better soon man!
Take it easy.

[Trei]

Hey all I am just so down at the moment, The love of my life has just left me. I don't no what to do and I am a mess, I just need some cheering up and I dont no what to do any more.

To, love someone is to allow someone the chance to destroy you.

You deserve better. Go out with mates, get drunk, find a pretty little rebound and have yourself a good time

[calais_304]

best advice i can give is, just live your life as normal, it will be tough for a while but eventually things will clear up and it will be another ex, talk it out with a close friend and just have fun being single.

[MikesVT]

Dude... I know what you're going though, you're not alone man...

My ex and I after 6 years broke up a couple months ago... Its only now I'm really starting to miss her, the things she did, all that... It sucks... It hurts like hell.

It happends to the best of us mate... Its a pain in the ass, but thats life. Time goes on, life goes on. Do what I did, live up the single life for a while... Go out with your friends, go spend an insane amount of money on stuff thats gonna get you in a good mood! Just takes time man... Good luck to ya

[maxholden]

I have one cheering up method, buy yourself top of the range VE

...

[Lumps of cheese]

Chin up mate, just enjoy yourself for a while.
It sucks and hurts now but it will get easier as time goes on.

[Scooter79]

Mate a word of advice from another that has been there... don't be in too much of a hurry to get into another relationship. Do your own thing. I know this sounds cliche' but it will give you the chance to learn more about yourself and how to handle things in future relationships. But first you have to go through the sadness, depression and all that but you'll come out good at the other side. Chin up

[Not_An_Abba_Fan]

It's funny how different people are. I am in my second serious relationship. The 1st one I married, was married for 7 years. The 2nd we are in our 11th year, married for nearly 7. I was single for about a week in between although I had known my current wife for about 5 months beforehand. It never resulted from an affair, it just blossomed from a friendship we had and took off because I was available. Some people like being single some don't. I like being in a relationship, I suppose I lucky because my wife doesn't demand things or resent time that I spend away from her ie: going out with mates, playing golf that sort of thing. Although I don't go out often as I enjoy her company and the company of my 4 year old twin girls.
One piece of serious advice I will give you is that you need to grieve. You have lost something and it hurts. Give yourself time to accept it. I believe you never really get over anything, you learn to live with it.
Somebody once told me that everything that happens is an event. It's how you react to and deal with the event that makes it good or bad. To me, for example it has no bearing so it is just an event. To you it has bearing and it affects your daily existence. How you choose to deal with it, emotionally and physically determins what type of event it is. Do what you have to do to deal with it and then move on. Having friends around is good, not to take your mind off it but to remind you that life goes on and you can still enjoy yourself without this person in your life. You may cry, you may punch the wall, you will miss her, you will bitch and moan about her to your friends but there are other potential ex girlfriends out there. Enjoy your freedom or don't, it's up to you.

[Scooter79]

Abba_Fan, I couldn't have put it any better.

[gottavecalaisv]

oh my god it's all getting a bit deep for me. someone pass the tissues please! but seriously, you WILL get over her as soon as someone else comes along and wonder why you ever felt like you do now. chin up and have a ciggy to calm the nerves! good luck for the future.

[unrool_VL]

If none of that works, talk to a good mate about it. You won't believe how good u'll feel after you get it off your chest. i've been there mate. all the best mate.

[G4orce]

Thanx everyone, you have all told me some things I cant use to help with getting over her. I just cant stop thinking abut her, last night i dreamt of her and that we were stil together and alright, I woke up and broke into tears, I then got back to sleep only to dream of her sleeping with another guy. The thought of her being with someone else is what kills me. I canty stand the thought of her doing all those things we did together to someone else. We are still talking and even had a cry together, I feel happy when I see her but then sad knowing she is not mine any more.

We have know eachother for so long we became best friends and then grew feelings for eachother. we got together only for a little while and stupidly i ruined it and lost her to another man. I waited 2 more years to get her back and finally i won her back. I just cant give up on her so easily, not after everything we have been through. I have talked to my mates, i have drank a few bees, i even punched a hole in my wall, It is just everything i do reminds me of her. I want to forget everything and I am sorry to bore you all but I dont even know you but you have already helped me more then you could think. Just to think that a total stranger can help someone in need.

Thanx heaps guys

[MikesVT]

Ey man, dont worry, like I said before, just takes time... even then everything is still gonna remind you of it... arghh! but its all good

I'm only up at this time because of my ex... cant sleep, have no appetite, its all pretty stuffed up, I know... But hey dude, at least you know theres someone on the forum in pretty much the exact same situation (almost)

Us Calais drivers gotta stick together You'll be right mate

[EXCESSV]

lot of good help and information there mate. i know its hard but take it all in and you will look back and say it all was helpful.
not to get into a my d*ck is better than yours type of thing but i understand what you and MikeVT are going through. i went through something similar a very short while ago.

met a girl, became friends and couldnt describe the feelings i had for her. we finally went out for year and a half. i decided to have a break to get through year 12 and TEE exams for uni..still stayed friends...
i did my own thing with mates and had a ball....but it never was as good as what it was with her...
mid way during first year of uni we started going out again. 4years of a unforgettable relationship went past.
10days after 4 year anniversary i pic her up from her temp work and she broke up with me. said she wasnt sure what she wanted. 7years together on and off and thrown away like that...no "lets try and work it out"...nothing
i had a feeling a guy at her work was feeding her head with the usual **** "oh you shouldnt be with someone if it makes you sad...your beautiful and should be happy", etc...well she is nieve and unexperienced with guys and relationships and she listened to him. the guy is 5 years older and asain
the 3 weeks later i thought the whole "i am not sure what i want" was BS and got a call from a mate who didnt know we broke up...told me that she was with a asain guy in the city hugging and ****....jumped in the Clubby and drove there to see it for myself...that hurt the most to see it....confronted her from within the car coz if i got out i would have destroyed the guy...

for the last couple of years we were planning house, marriage, kids, etc. we put money in investment fund for a house deposit 3 weeks before she broke up with me.
Gold Coast holiday booked for Feb this year where i had Valentines Day planned at seaworld with swim with dolphins and dolphin was gonna bring the ring tied to the end of the dolphins toy where i was gonna propose to her...all a surprise ofcourse.....

both parents were shocked...her parents kissed the ground i walked on..i was basically the son in law already and they couldnt believe what was happening. i feel sorry for her dad...poor guy cried when i went to talk to him...i thought he was gonna have a heart attack there and then.

she works near me (i got her the job before she broke up with me) for a family friend of mine.
he said that since breaking up with me she has changed and is not the person he knew and hired.
she hates the cold and yet flew to new york and still is there i think...for 3 weeks in minus degrees temperature to see her girl friend. this girl has gone out of her mind!

[Heffer_Slayer]

the guy is 5 years older and asain

LOL!!!!!

Still man. that really BITES THE PILLOW! i cant belive u's got so far into it.....far out, makes me sad just thinkin bout that.

If they had a hug emotion i would put it on so. *insert hug emotion here*

Try and hang in there fellas. I know what you's are goin threw. cuz i am goin threw it to now!

But man. we r a bunch of soft c*cks. we need to harden the f*ck up!!

ha ha!
PEACE!

[EXCESSV]

to make it worse on new years morning i wrote my HSV VXII R8 into a tree coming home after only having it for 5months!!!
as if things couldnt get worse...BLOW AFTER BLOW

well i changed my tickets for gold coast and went with the boys in january. had an awesome time and although there were times she ran through my head i made sure i had a good time and boy did i have a good time

mate i went through the whole cry, anger, depressed, cant sleep, cant eat, constant headache, emotional wreck thing....never wish anyone to ever go through it.
i will tell you something mate it gets better as time goes on. for me now its not that i miss her or anything like that...what still haunts me is the betrayal, cheating and lying that happened....no one saw it coming

if you have good friends or family they will help u out sooo much.
remember that you cant win every round of the boxing match and there will be days where you will feel like **** but its ok...get up the next morning with a smile on your face and head up...it gets better....time does heal wounds

but you will move on and learn from it and become a better person.
you can choose one of two things.
1) learn from the experience, grow and become and better person OR
2) sulk and not learn anything and go through a continuous cycle with all your next relationships

i chose number 1 and as some said hardened the f*ck up.

for me its a new year better year with a new car and new girls

[BeNoS]

haha thats the way m8 life can be a b*tch but its what u make of it in the long run so although hard u will have to move on and hope for a bit more luck next time again i no it aint easy
and dont worry u aint the only 1 sufferin from depression on this forum eg me myself but thats from lack of life and friends and i can c im workin a deadend job for a slave wage but i get through it and live it up when i get the chance