Getting Fed Up With Older Brother

[RichoVZ]

This will be a pretty big rant....

I have a older brother who i am getting fed up with. He, well, there's no words to explain it. So i will post examples on why i am getting fed up with him.


Rules of Career

He has told me on many occasions to not go to uni, rather, stay where i am working. Or he has said go to uni, and do a different course such as engineering, as it pays more? I am waiting to hear if i got accepted into uni down in melbourne, my first preference was Bachelor of Exercise Science Sport Science / Commerce. And this is the career path i want to follow. I want to work with athletes, hoping one day become the head Strength & Conditioning Coach at North Melbourne Football Club. Now my brother has said, dont bother, become an engineer. He has told me to not do something you love as a career. He is an accountant or whatever, so that explains it.

He also constantly puts me down saying 'Will you be a financial manager when your 25 like me?'. He has told me not to attend uni, not for a couple years more, because i have a car loan. so he thinks i couldnt work and do uni at the same time. than he reminds me on how he had a full-time job and done uni at night til 9pm or whatever and come home and get a few hours sleep and wake up to do it all over again. So he means, if i am going to do uni, the only way to do it is his way.


Cars

This is a big issue with him. Let me start of saying, he drives a beat up 97 Hyundai Accent.....

His views on cars is, buy em cheap, run em into the ground, and buy another cheap one. He doesnt believe in mods or anything. He has told me several times not to waste my money on doing up my car, because in the end, the car doesnt appreciate, so you dont make money of it. He even tried talking me out of getting my current car for something for smaller like his car.

What can i say to combat this? All i can think of is i work for my money, so im entitled to spending it on what i want! but i can already think of his comeback 'you're only wasting your money, wait til you finished paying of your car, you're already in debt, blah blah blah'


Weekends/Sports

He reckons my weekends should only be used for household work! And mostly work i dont need, or shouldnt do. Such as work around his house. I dont mind doing work on weekends around the house, like if its mowing the lawns, or carting wood, but what i hate the most is when he comes over to our house (i live with my dad and little brother atm) and tells me to go outside and do this or do that, or to go to his house and help him do this! When i just want to relax for half a day after a long week at work! He sits at a desk all day, i am on my feet doing physical work all day.

Now onto sports, last year i didnt really want to play cricket as i have no interest in it anymore, but yet he pretty much forced me into playing saying i should **** where i sleep blah blah. I dont want to play this year, as i want to work and make some cash for next year, what can i say that wont result in him yelling and forcing me again?! I mean, im 20, i am legally allowed to make choices right?

I copped some abuse of him earlier in the year, when we had a bye in football and i told work i could work on that saturday. after he found out that i worked, he asked me why i didnt work instead of playing all that football! I mean, f**k, comeon! aren't i allowed to have a social life!!!


Well thats all i can think of at the moment that is ****ing me off with my older brother. whats the best way to deal with it? I am hoping to move early next year to melbourne, so that means i am away from him, but i still got 4 months with him hanging around and im boiling more and more each time he opens his mouth and puts me down


/End Rant

[one_and_only2004]

If it's your life, why are you listening to him? Good on him for being a financial advisor at 25, but that doesn't impress me much/at all. His time will come, after all there's always someone better than you...
You sure this guy isn't actually your mother?

[hakhawk]

you're 20, grow some and tell him to **** off and mind his own business.

career, ive always thought enjoy what you do for a living, no point going to work miserable.

cars, as you said, its your cash, spend it how you like. might pay to kill off that loan first though.

weekends/sport, how did he force you to play cricket? sorry, i cant work that one out.


did he play a big part in your upbringing? sounds like hes trying to be your dad. hes trying to help, but it seems hes going way to overboard with everything.

[Julie]

umm I am assuming is he still living at home with you and mummy/daddy by your comment that you can't wait to get away from him, 25 and living at home hardly screams success to me. If it were my brother I would tell him to go **** off and get a life. See who is laughing when he has a heart attack at 30. Besides he drives a hyundai- nuf said

[eurekamad94]

well he is an accountant so he will always be intrested in saving / making cash other than that i cant really offer you any advice im kinda the same my mates say i dont come across as intimidating so i get walked over all the time and it ****s me to tears if he wants you to do criket just tell him straight out that your not doing it and or not intrested in it as for careers tell him you would rather be a happy average income earner than a miserable high income earner its YOUR choice i agree with him on the car loan it will be tight with cash ........

[SAV_117]

ok his only what 5 years older than u errr y does he think he knows soooo much more than u do in the end its your choice i get the same lecture from my dad not so much job wise he doesnt care what i do as long as i want to do it but car wise he doesnt want me to touch it no rims no lowering no sound system no nothin might sound gay but sit down talk ta ya bro try and twist his way of thinkin or if that doesnt work 2 simple words **** OFF

[crazyspoon05]

Kill him......

[Cody]

Tell him to leave u alone, if he gets narky hit him in the head he should leave u alone after that. lol

[RichoVZ]

umm I am assuming is he still living at home with you and mummy/daddy by your comment that you can't wait to get away from him, 25 and living at home hardly screams success to me. If it were my brother I would tell him to go **** off and get a life. See who is laughing when he has a heart attack at 30. Besides he drives a hyundai- nuf said

nah he isnt living at home, he lives pretty much up the road from us. last time i told him to f**k off, it ended up with him punching the sh!t out of me.

you're 20, grow some and tell him to **** off and mind his own business.

career, ive always thought enjoy what you do for a living, no point going to work miserable.

cars, as you said, its your cash, spend it how you like. might pay to kill off that loan first though.

weekends/sport, how did he force you to play cricket? sorry, i cant work that one out.


did he play a big part in your upbringing? sounds like hes trying to be your dad. hes trying to help, but it seems hes going way to overboard with everything.

career, thats what im living by. but he says those that say they are doing it for the love and not the money are just dumb, you work to make money, you live to make money.....

even though at times i do agree on the loan bit, i am paying over the needed amount i need to pay weekly, and i put all my tax return on the loan, and im nearly $2000 up on my loan.

he forced me by pretty much intimidation, as he is bigger than me.

his wife tells me he is just trying to help but i just think 'well he can help by backing the f**k off.

well he is an accountant so he will always be intrested in saving / making cash other than that i cant really offer you any advice im kinda the same my mates say i dont come across as intimidating so i get walked over all the time and it ****s me to tears if he wants you to do criket just tell him straight out that your not doing it and or not intrested in it as for careers tell him you would rather be a happy average income earner than a miserable high income earner its YOUR choice i agree with him on the car loan it will be tight with cash ........

it will be tight for cash, but all i got to do is follow a strict budget during the semesters, and when it comes holiday time in uni, i can work full-time and get some cash to fall back on, and have some comfort.

[ClairBear]

Get him to log on here - we will fix the mouthy smart so and so

[hakhawk]

sounds like a typical bully. nice of him to threaten violence for not playing sport, stuff that.

tell him to grow up, act like a man, not a ********.

[Julie]

nah he isnt living at home, he lives pretty much up the road from us. last time i told him to f**k off, it ended up with him punching the sh!t out of me.



career, thats what im living by. but he says those that say they are doing it for the love and not the money are just dumb, you work to make money, you live to make money.....

even though at times i do agree on the loan bit, i am paying over the needed amount i need to pay weekly, and i put all my tax return on the loan, and im nearly $2000 up on my loan.

he forced me by pretty much intimidation, as he is bigger than me.

his wife tells me he is just trying to help but i just think 'well he can help by backing the f**k off.



it will be tight for cash, but all i got to do is follow a strict budget during the semesters, and when it comes holiday time in uni, i can work full-time and get some cash to fall back on, and have some comfort.

Take out an a.v.o on him lol! or ditch the footy/cricket, get some sort of martial arts/boxing training and whoop his arse haha. Don't worry that he is bigger than you- remember the bigger they are the harder they fall

If he lives just to make money then he must have a pretty sad existence. Do what you want to do, money isn't everything. If you find a job you love doing you will never work a day in your life, it may not make you a millionaire but you will lead a richer life than your bro

If you work part time and do uni and are still living at home with minimal other expenses you should have no problems coping financially, just live within your means.

[Scooter79]

Agree with all the above. Strap on a pair and tell him to **** off! No one controls except you. By the sounds of it he is a pathetic piece of crap who desperately needs to pull his head out of his arse. Sorry if I seem offensive but live your own life. Thats the only way you'll be happy.

I have a brother 4 years older than me and we have absolutely nothing in common. Never really did anything together and only had contact once in the last 5 or so years, and that was at my wedding. Even then he struggled to string one sentence together. No loss to me. I've got my own family now and my in laws are more what I consider real familiy. They say blood is thicker than water... so what.

...and if he beats you up again just go to the cops and have him charged... See how much that helps his career in finance


http://au.youtube.com/watch?v=aDUuCSc42NU

[BANKS]

Goto the gym and get built like a brick **** house. Then see how he acts...

Mate, i know this is gonna sound harsh but harden and grow the **** up. Your 20, not 11. A big brothers job is to annoy but look out for younger siblings but some people, given a bit of power get enjoyment in making their life a slice of hell.

**** cricket if YOU dont like it.

Supercharge YOUR car.

Go out when YOU want.

Work when YOU can.

See the pattern here?

[Philthy]

My older brother of 2 years learnt when we were kids that no matter what he does I will still do what I want.
Occasionally if we are both home over uni holidays he will still try telling me what to do. A sarcastic agreement before doing whatever I want reminds him where he stands.
I took a few beatings when he was bigger than me but thats not likely to happen anymore

[padrickz88]

last time i told him to f**k off, it ended up with him punching the sh!t out of me.

1. tell him to suck your lefty, if he doesn't like it then punch the **** out of him first this time
2. i agree with banks, harden the **** up, grow some balls.... last time my brother tried to walk all over me, he almost ended up through a wall and his minded his own business since...
3. do what makes you happy, thats it... why live your life making him happy is your miserable?

[bndwgn]

root his wife

[MasterOfReality]

root his wife

Sounds like he has taken on the father role a bit too seriously.

I'm older than my sister, and I do give her advice from time to time about career and stuff, but I can't physically force her to do anything.

It sounds like its building up to a big barney. Tell him to get stuffed. Get your old man involved as well, its his damn son thats causing the issues so get him to step in and tell your brother to back off or else.

Your brother obviously sounds like he is used to walking all over you and getting away with it. How about making the first move this time? Tell him to mind his own business. If he comes at you, get in first. It will surprise the **** out of him.

[Reaper]

Grow some balls and tell him he is welcome to live his life as he sees fit just the same as I will live mine. When I need your (ie your brother's) opinion I'll give it to you.

Reaper

[wildss]

i have to agree with everyone else, start standing up for yourself otherwise he will continue to do it for the rest of your life.
next time he tries his **** tell him to **** off and then crack the **** for good measure

[Stupa]

just touch him up with the cricket bat