soon to be a dad, what do i need to know?

[greenacc]

lots of you must have kids , so what are the important things i need to know, or potholes to avoid on the road to fatherhood...?

[TVR-190]

/me passes a book entitles "So youve ruined your life"

[CANYONERO]

well congrats mate, not a dad (not that i know of lol) so i cant give you any advice. but im sure there are heaps of people out there that can.

[CANYONERO]

damn double post!

[Ozzie]

congrats mate. Im a dad of one that just turned 1.

Not really many tips I can give that you wouldnt already know.
Make sure you leave bub to nap in non direct sunlight so colic goes away.
Their pretty easy until their about 3 months then they start to roll and wiggle and are a bit more of a handful...
Pretty much all they do when new born is sleep and eat so u gotta keep up with the milk (either formula or boob)
Wash bubs clothes and bedding in sensitive skin liquid soap and keep bub away from animals ect... untill bubs a few months cous their amune systems need to be developed.
Other than that it all comes natural.
Oh and if you ever feel bub is sick or something just go to the doctors or hospital, dont think bout doin it just do it, its not worth any risks otherwise.

[ClairBear]

1. They cost endless amounts of money, they are like giant money pits - stand back and just throw whatever you have at them.

2. They grow up so incredibly fast so you must treasure every minute you can.

3. They make your arms ache when they are younger, and your hearts ache when they are older.

[Ozzie]

1. They cost endless amounts of money, they are like giant money pits - stand back and just throw whatever you have at them.

2. They grow up so incredibly fast so you must treasure every minute you can.

3. They make your arms ache when they are younger, and your hearts ache when they are older.

lol true, true and true!! But their worth it

[Lumps of cheese]

I have 2 boys and love them more than anything. They will turn your world upside down in the best possible way, enjoy every minute.

[minux]

I was going to say wear a condom...but it is a little too late for that. So instead I'll just say good luck.

You can read as many books as you like and get as much advice as you like, but at the end of the day, you will know what to do.

[VT-565]

Patience.


My boy turns 4 next month, I've had him on my own for the last 12 months and I would have to say patience is the biggest thing.
If you have that, then anything they do (and they can do anything!) won't push you past your limit and there will be smiles all round.
Oh and stay on the good side of your mum or mother-in-law, you will want some time to yourselves soon enough lol

[CSP]

Yes I know... this is a video link... But it relates directly to this topic.

Dad...

[woteva]

Don't give the baby an sip of Bourbon when they won't sleep

[Pimpn1]

congrats mate, i hope for all the best, i myself am not a father, but all i can say is love your child no matter what happens, as im in a crazy situation still trying to get guardian of a 6yo who is badly neglected from his mum and is also engaged to a pedophile, dad wants nothing to do with son etc etc
so love your child in the good and the bad times

[Julie]

Do you know if you are expecting a boy or a girl? There a few bits of gender specific advice I could give you there....

OK so newborn advice to start. Most of my advice would be for the mum but heres some 'dad' advice.

Firstly be nice to your missus and don't try and get any for a while, it stays quite sore there for a while lol but on the other hand anyone that tells u to wait 6 weeks is being a bit over the top.

If your missus is breastfeeding bubs (good for her if she does ) go and grab her a nice big drink of water, its thirsty work. Next one sort of relates back to the first one, but if she is breastfeeding try not to be too fascinated with her big boobies, they get quite sensitive and overactive husbands get real annoying.

Get involved, don't be scared to change a nappy- (I would give the first crappy nappy a miss though, thats just plain nasty lol) or give bubs a bath, it will bring you closer to the baby and your missus will appreciate it too.

Try and give your missus a break, she will be sleep deprived, little things like take bubs for a walk pushing the pram to settle down and give the wife a break.

I know most of the stuff I have mentioned is more about your missus than the baby but in the first couple of months of life they don't do much and its usually the mum that gets lumped with all the work and a happy mum makes for a happier baby.

[excalibur]

First off CONGRATULATIONS
i am a dad of 2
6 year old girl
6 month old boy
only advice i can give is make sure your coping with new family and your wife/girlfriend is also coping baby blues can sneek up on both parents other than that most things come natural and its always good to have very supportting family /friends around makes life a hell of alot easier

[jatsvl]

I have three now, and little to NO sex life anymore, they seem to have a knack of waking, crying, screaming and ****ting at the most inconvieniant times and not just while they are babies either, FOREVER!
patience is the key with the kids and the missus and don't think they don't understand the feelings and emotions flying around the house if you and mum are having a crappy day, then so are they.
best of luck to you and the FAMILY!

[Shortstuff]

You can read as many books as you like and get as much advice as you like, but at the end of the day, you will know what to do.

So true! It will just come naturally so don't s**t bricks about it! And don't worry if it seems hard to start with. Most take about 3 months to settle into a good routine.

Good luck It's all worth it.

[cxcxcxvcvcvc]

Love,Patience,time,money, this is the start! and congrats mate
By the way mate i am a father of 2 boys, and they are the breath in my life!!

[50LTRv8]

I have 3 boys so here goes.

Pretty much what jules has said.

Don't expect much sleep for the first little while.
It is o.k. for the baby to cry, just don't allow the baby to get stressed.

The nappy changing thing is just something ya gotta do. I always do it when I am home as the wife is a stay at home mum and has to do it while I am at work. I think of it as a pit stop and can do it pretty quick now.

You can use a dummy as a form of self settling although my first 2 hated it and my third uses one, so just go off what the baby does with it.

Please encourage the mrs to breast feed, much better for child and mum, but be aware it may be difficult the first time around for mum to get the hang of it.

Don't start baby food solids until around 6 months as their little bodies arn't developed to handle food.

With my older kids, I just enjoy being their mate. One big plus when you have older kids is that you can buy toys for yourself and no one bats an eyelid

[arrow224]

I have no constructive advise here, but I clicked the link because I thought it read "soon to be dead, what do I need to know?"....

[VN_Luke]

hairy side up, foot side down.

[minux]

I have no constructive advise here, but I clicked the link because I thought it read "soon to be dead, what do I need to know?"....

Soon to be a dad, soon to be dead, whats the difference?

[And_ROOS]

I have 10 kids in China apparently, all career minded. Started making shoes at 3 and are now 5, thats outlasting your job life by a year over there

[Troy711]

Make sure you plant a rose bush under their bedroom window, that way when they are older they won't be able to sneak out at night

[TheForgotten]

I'll throw in a bit here, but not about bub.
don't make my mistake
every so often (at least once a month) let nan and pop look after bub for a few hours so you can get some alone time with the missus. it's hard to be away from bub, but once mum feels neglected it's all over....