I need male opinions...

[Sharoo]

Or female too if you tell me if im over reacting or whatever.

My brother is seeing one of my best friends.
I'm really not comfortable with this at all. He is extremely clingy after breaking up with his ex gf and she is a bit of a get-around (trying to phrase it nicely) The best way to describe what he is like is to say he's like a dog trying to get a bitch on heat (my other brother said that not me..lol)

She has been playing games with him because she felt smothered by him and he drove me crazy. He said she wasn't answering his calls and made me call her and 'surprise' she answered. She told him she didn't have her phone with her.. That is a flat out lie. If it leaves her hand its in her sight. She is always on it.

We used to hang out all together on a Friday night at the surfclub but not they just isolate themselves from the group and we don't see them.

I know that it will only be a matter of time before she is over him.
Today he all planned to go to the Surf club and I had to drop my daughter off at my sisters for a sleepover and told him I can pick up her and her sister and bring them out to save him a trip. He said he'd get back to me.

My dad asked me where my keys were today so he could get the oil out of my boot. I asked him why and he said my brother is taking his car to pick my friend up..from Canberra
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This has really peed me off as there was no need for him to do it. There were 2 buses she could have caught! He turned up after work and asked me to move my car (half way through washing it) then I told him to wait and he got angry and I kinda to him what I thought...

I said that she is a slut and he isn't her personal taxi, she got around before him and will get around after. Then he told me to f off and stormed off home.

I don't regret what I said because she will use someone for all they're worth, but now I'm worried about going out tonight. I know I will tell her where to go if I see them and to be honest I want to..lol but I know it will cause a heap of shit after.
I hate that they are together and one way or another I am losing both one of them. If she hurts him I will hate her.
Why is he being such a tool? The night they hooked up he was joking to me and his roomie about her being a Slut, why won't he realise what I am saying is true??


Sorry for the novel..

[Morticia]

Honestly...

He is young, dumb and full of cum...

He wont think with the right head and I know this is bad to say this but he might need to get hurt so he can see girls for what they really are and maybe it will stop him being clingy too...

Yelling at him and this chick wont help... he will just get more stubborn to prove you wrong.

[greenfoam]

Sharoo, you can't stop a male from wanting what his wants. If he's willing to make the attempt all things considered (most guys probably wouldn't try that situation) but since he's game your just going to have to accept it because he's not going to stop . After he's won the challenge he might decide she was no good anway but he's at least going to try her once. P.S sometimes all a guy want's is a proper slut, it's not a bad thing, most of the time it's actualy a big step towards being the perfect girl

[Morton]

Sometimes you can't protect the people you care for, no matter how much you want to. Much like a mother telling her son not to date someone because she knows better, the son will just have to find out for himself.

You've tried to guide him, and sometimes that's as much as any reasonable person can be expected to do. It seems apparent that your brother won't listen to you - he has to live his own life, and make his own mistakes. Sometimes these are the best lessons a person can learn.

If you try not to take it personally, there's a chance you can still hold them both dear to you regardless of what happens. Your brother has to learn one way or another, and perhaps you shouldn't take it personally if she does hurt him? It's obviously his problem as much as it is hers. It takes two to tango, you know Sure, she will have hurt him. But he also let himself be hurt, having failed to heed your warnings.

If it were me, I'd back off and let them take their own course. And if possible, don't let this effect your relationship with your best friend.

Yes, she may hurt your brother - but yes, he DID ask for it. And there's always the possibility he won't take it that badly. It seems that on some level, he knows how this will end.

Perhaps I'm too simple - I tend to be fairly laid back when it comes to issues like this - but that's just my two cents worth

[Morticia]

P.S sometimes all a guy want's is a proper slut, it's not a bad thing, most of the time it's actualy a big step towards being the perfect girl

??? WTF? do you mean being or meeting? Being a slut doesnt give you a big step towards being the perfect girl... its a big step toward STD's!!!!!!!!

[skitzn]

he will learn the hard way and quickly by the sounds of it!

just let it take its course try not to let them bother you .

blokes cant be told by anyone that the person they are with is bad for them. if or should i say when he gets dumped he will realise this.

probably not good to yell or scream at them you might slip out something that cant be taken back .

on another note friends of yours shouldn't hook up with your family rarely ends good , but thats just my opinion.

relax get blind tonight and dont let it get to you!

nige(skitzn)

[MasterOfReality]

There isnt much you can do - just tell him you warned him and don't come crying to you when he gets done over.

The similar thing, in reverse happened to me. One of my mates tried to shag my sister. This guy used to get around heaps and then brag about it with us, including explicit photos he used to show us, of the girls that were stupid enough to go home with him.

The joke stopped when he tried it on my sister. I nearly put the guy in hospital. The problem was, she was infatuated with him and believed every word he said (of course he tried to portray himself as the nice guy) and she hated me for what I did to him. I told her everything I knew about him. Word got to my parents and they went mental. It nearly caused the whole family to break up. My sister only realised when he lost patience with her and told her to get effed along with her family. Thats when she realised what he was up to.

All you can do is advise your brother whats best for him, and tell your so called friend to fark off.

[VN_Luke]

Right - We can fix this quick snap.

What's her number?

[Not_An_Abba_Fan]

Is this just a case of you being jealous? She is your friend and now your brother is getting her attention. I would leave them be and see where it takes them. If he gets hurt you can tell him "I told you so", if she gets hurt you can be there to pick up the pieces. If it works out then everyone is happy....except you of course....

They are adults, stop trying to dictate to them who they can and can't see.

[Calaber]

One of life's hard lessons coming up....let him suffer and learn from it - he will be the wiser for it in future.

[Sharoo]

Thanks guys, you are all really telling me what I already knew but was hoping you wouldn't say...lol
I will admit I am jelous, he stole my friend from me, I never see her or hear from her as shes always with him AND then me and my brother used to always hand out together or in a group and now he totally ditched me for her. Even when he was seeing other girls he still would hang out with me and my kids, now shes off with her and her son.

Im going out tonight and will hopefully just ignore them.. their loss..lol
They are bringing her 17 year old sister so will probably be out in the beach car park all night anyway..

I have already told him I won't be there for him after!

[greenfoam]

Right - We can fix this quick snap.

What's her number?

You've got your funny hat on today

[Not_An_Abba_Fan]

Don't let this come between you two though. Blood is thicker than water after all. I have just recently reconciled with my sister after a lot of years and now we are really close. I just wish it had always been like this.

[greenfoam]

??? WTF? do you mean being or meeting? Being a slut doesnt give you a big step towards being the perfect girl... its a big step toward STD's!!!!!!!!

As I say to my overly conservative wife constantly, learn to embrace your inner ho

[CANYONERO]

As I say to my overly conservative wife constantly, learn to embrace your inner ho

hahahaha! im trying that one on my GF . probably wont get far though.

[Phat VN]

lol good 1 green foam hahaha

[Morticia]

??? WTF? do you mean being or meeting? Being a slut doesnt give you a big step towards being the perfect girl... its a big step toward STD's!!!!!!!!

As I say to my overly conservative wife constantly, learn to embrace your inner ho

you need to find a good middle ground... not overly conservitive but not overly open... you need to embrase your inner freak without everyone knowing every freckle on your body...

[hsvpunk]

She hot, PICS OR BAN

[Morton]

hsvpunk, take your antics back to /b/

Sharoo, good luck is all I can say At least you're open to taking advice - unlike your brother ^_^ haha

[SAV_117]

??? WTF? do you mean being or meeting? Being a slut doesnt give you a big step towards being the perfect girl... its a big step toward STD's!!!!!!!!

bahahhahaha that was classic

[hsvpunk]

ok, im sorry, but somebody had to say it

Good Luck with it all.

[greenfoam]

hahahaha! im trying that one on my GF . probably wont get far though.

It's a big job, takes years and years to properly corrupt or undo the corruption of her upbringing (depending on how you see it) but it can be done! good luck with your efforts !. I've been married 7 years but I started with a girl that used to cover my eyes when a pg rated boob was on tv

[danja]

One of life's hard lessons coming up....let him suffer and learn from it - he will be the wiser for it in future.

^^ What the wise man said.

[Troy5L]

take him to a brothel

[DannyboyDS]

Porbably best to just stay out of it, otherwise you may become the scapegoat, I>E get blamed later on or be resented later on because of your conduct, in saying that your feelings seem fairly natural.

If you are willing to call her a slut and a user, you obviously don't hold her ina very high regard anyway, your brother is however obviously important to you as this situation has sent you on the backfoot looking for a way to protect him, thats good I like that, I wish I was that close with my sister as niether of us really care less about each other.

I honestly hope it all pans out for you, but maybe just continue treating them as individuals and not as a couple.