Advice on tracking down family of deceased former girlfriend - NSW.

[Calaber]

Im not going to hide joining FB from her. I have already told her that it would be nice to be able to contact those old friends so I have plenty of sound reasons to join. The one reason I haven't joined before now is less significant than it was and this search is far more important to me.

This search is very private. It won't be getting circulated.

Question; Is asking to be a friend the only way you can initially contact a member or is there a PM setup?

 

[VS_Pete]

I`m a baby at FB.
Someone else on here should know.

Or just try it.

 

[pebbs]

If you want to keep it private I wouldn't go to FB,

 

[Calaber]

Yeah, by private I meant keeping the inquiries to the bare minimum and only approaching people after I had as much info as possible to narrow the field down. No friends or relo's to be involved. But I understand your point. FB is pretty open despite its "safeguards".

Another question. Can the other half see who I have been in touch with IF she's not a friend? (Though that won't be possible, obviously).

 

[pebbs]

Mate you never know who knows who. Went to Canada years ago and was talking to a guy never met before.
when I eventually got home to my town I ran into a guy down the RSL who told me about his friend in Canada whom I had met, to small a world for me Im afraid.

 

[Calaber]

Hmm. Perhaps might hold off on FB then for a bit. At this stage, I might sit tight and wait for the certificate to see how much info it provides. The only other info the family members could provide would be to fill the details of in those last years about work and after all this time, they may not be clear on them anyway.

It's times like that that it would have been handy to still be working. From my position at the time of my retirement, I might have been able to contact personnel and seek details of her final years of service. Hell, I don't even know if she was still employed by the Police Department when she passed away. She'd had two children so she might have left before then to care for them.

 

[greenacc]

I meant you could join FB to connect with other mates not necessarily related to this lost GF, or both.
Yes, you can PM someone on FB who you are not friends with. I'm not 100% sure if that depends on their privacy settings though. It's always worked when Ive needed to do this.

 

[Dayvo]

Ok you know where she used to work so if you Goggle the company it might have a Facebook page.

 

[mpower]

Join FB, review all privacy settings, only give FB the info you want to or even make some of it up. It only knows what you tell it.

Also you can just message people you find and ask questions.

Click "Find Friends" fill out the bits under in "Search for Friends" click their name so it goes to their page, then hit "Message" right next to "Add Friend".

Keep and eye out for responses.

repeat.

 

[Dayvo]

You don't even have to use your own name. You can join FB using the name John Smith if you want