i think this will be the female connector then:
E3 HSV & HOLDEN VE II REVERSE CAMERA MODULE - SS CALAIS GTS | eBay
what else would it be? The seller told me the module allows it to stay on after 3km/h
He sells, in another listing one with the module + a vim module which i believe is for RSE/dvd.
Nope, that definitely does not include the video connector.
What the above module does is enables the Reverse Camera input on the IQ unit, if it hasnt been enabled already.
(I.E. if your car didnt have a reverse camera when you bought it, then the reverse camera input option will be disabled on your IQ unit).
I.E. you wont be able to turn it on, unless,
1) You take it to Holden, or someone to program the IQ unit for you to enable the option, or
2) You buy the above module, wire it up, and turn on your IQ unit.
Sooooooo to summerise,
1) If you want to use the reverse camera input on an IQ unit, you need to have it enabled in the IQ software via Tech2.
2) You will need to source the 18 Pin Video Connector to physically plug in to the IQ unit, and connect a camera to.
3) You will need to source a Camera unit (Does not have to be Genuine, can be anything that outputs composite video
4) You will need to connect the camera to your reverse lights to power the camera up when reverse gear is selected.
(Or connect to the Ignition feed somewhere if the camera flickers when powered up
5) You will then need to run a video cable from the camera, to the IQ units connector, and connect everything up.
For a Series II IQ unit, that is all you need to do.
You don't need VIM for the reverse camera,
You don't need the above ebay module if you take your car to Holden, or someone else knowledgeable like Ultimate Wiring Conversions (DoubleDip on these forums) and have the input enabled.
You don't need a specific camera (The main concern is being able to mount the camera to the car nicely).
I hope this helps.