how old were you when you had kids? or when do you plan to?

I think people who wait until their 35+ to have children are greedy and selfish. Flame away. But how will it be having 60yr old's as parents when you're 20.
The age gap is just too vast.

 

Since I'm allways needing b12 injections, I've sone alot of reading about it. And I'm pretttttty sure 99% that if you were having kids at 30+ you would want to be on B12 injections once a month for at least 6 months before geting pregnant (for both partners). It's the best way to restore your dna strands to original condition (and have normal kids)

 

Hardly selfish if you have no choice in the matter :s my wife doesn't want kids or even like kids, but that's my only purpose for being alive so it's difficult

 

Osteochondromatosis is a rare, autosomal dominant condition. Nothing to do with the parents being old.

 

I love when people say they don't like kids, I just have trouble believing that they were born as adults. Saying you don't want to have kids is fair enough. Stating the obvious, kids are our future!

 

sorry if i cant say it, i dont read it, my cuz has small and very big bone nodules growing on his bones that you can see pushing up his skin. it is a genetic condition thats was increased by their ages in this cases. the father was in early/mid 50's. i think his background had a part in it also.

 

My wife knew someone who waited till they were financialy set up for kids ,had their properties ,cars and all the rest but to this day they can't have kids .Drs said a factor was age ,so there is no right time

 

You can't read that? lol. It's in my girlfriends family also. autosomal dominant just means that one parent has the gene (whether it presents itself or not) and has a 50% chance of passing it on. Although from what we've looked into it the % of sufferers seems to be higher (in theory this is wrong though).

As you say, it is genetic (funnily enough that is the same as background). Never heard anything about it being increased through age as that's not the way these genetic conditions work.

Having said that many health conditions and abnormalities increase with the age of the mother and to a lesser degree the father.

 

There most certainly is a right time! If i were 15 it wouldn't be the right time. If I'm 50 it isn't the right time.
It'll take no more than 5 years to get the financial side of things sorted, by which time my other half will be 28. Prime baby-making time.
Even then if either of us have problems with the process (well, the process i think we have sorted, perhaps the outcome of the process would be a better description) we'll still have up to 10 'good' years left to sort out how we address the problem.

I reckon that makes it as close to the right time as possible. I certainly won't be in the same situation as your wife's friends.

 

Whats wrong with that??? My old man was 60 when I was 21. He still works 2 jobs, and plans to for the next 10 years. Age is no barrier people.

 

My first child was born in December last year .... I am 36 now .... and it is a wonderful thing..... it is very interesting watching the little fellow grow.

Only met my wife 2 years ago ..... after 8 months a baby was on the way and we got married a couple months after that....

Now have another baby on the way and is due in March....

Thing is my wife already had 2 children ..... So, i went from a 34yr old single man with no real responsiblities to a married man with 4 children (soon to be) within a very short time.

So i guess i had children at an older age because i hadn't met the woman that i'd settle down for until 34 .... but geeez it was worth the wait

I have considered how old i will be when my children are in there teens but if you stay fit and active then it should be fine .... also raising my wifes 2 girls so they get to have the cool younger parents

For someone that thought they may not have kids, things have surely changed and quite suddenly ...... but couldn't be happier!

 

Good example, there is not one right time for everyone. Too young, middle aged or too old, a **** parent is a **** parent and a good parent can be any age.

 

this is what i have been told and really what 2 doctors give the same information? depending if you go to gp or specialist and this info i received is 14 years old. alot more research can happen in that time and the information would most definitely have changed. genetic background looks at both parents yes agreed. so really dosent matter if i said genetic or background same s**t different sound, again i was told the male has a higher rate of the carrier gene because of his european background. i dont feel i was having a go at any one. its seems to me that there are people out there in this post especially who always like to put others down or have a go at there posts.

 

^^^ Only if i read misinformation. LIke you said though, it's 14 years ago you were given that info. Can't blame you for that little time warp though can we?!
Welcome to the future, by the way!

 

weeeellllll heeeelllllooooo fuuuuuture geez just hit me thanks, hang on.......there is future one second away something will change hahaha. gee tomorrow some new s**t is going to come out and discredit everything we have been told about such and such. again everything i typed is/was and will be my opinion yeah genetic blah blah blah, old blah blah blah, seriously 42/45 IMO is old for starting .my mum had grown children at that age as will i and i would prefer it that way. um and what are the chances there is a person on here knowing the subject? nice to meet a geneticist on here thank you for your info i will cut and paste to my computer. disability came happend to a child of any stage of pregnancy no matter the mothers age. it all comes down to numbers.

 

Well my wife had her 1st when she had just turned 19 and I was 24. I am now 35 and we had our 2nd in 2002 when I was 28 and my wife was 22.

No more for us. I have got her pregnant 5 times for 2 kids and 3 miscarriages.

Kids are so much hard work and they chane your lives forever.

 

There not hard work at all, they just require a lot of responsiility. The hardest thing is when the missus comes up to you and says "I spent $500 coz I needed nappies and formula and the kids doctors appointments and this and that". But you deal with it. Best movie quote ever "Any fool with a dick can make babies but only a real man can raise his kids". Or something like that, you get the jist.

 

I had my first at 25 and my wife as just on 20. One of the best things I have ever done. I am 10 weeks away from my 4th and can't wait. Yes they can be painful at times but it is usually because I put my mood onto them.

Nothing like getting crash tackled at the door, kids hanging off ya legs waiting to go and kick a footy.

It is quite funny at times for me as sometimes I still don't think of myself as a parent, just a 31 year old with some really good mates waiting for me when I get home. I also get to buy toys from my youth for myself (like lego) and they all just think it is for my kids :whistling.

 

I was 23 when I had mine.

Now 25 and I feel I should have had kids earlier.
Better to have them while your young i recon, that way your not 50 when your kids start school. Plenty of years left to work to support them.

 

I'm against having kids when you get too old as well. I have a mate my age (21) who's Dad is almost 70, and in the last few years of highschool he had a real tough time because his old man has all sorts of health problems.

My Dad passed away when I was 10 years old. Although he was still young (under 40), he was sick for a long time beforehand. After going through that as a little kid I'll do whatever it takes to make sure I'm around to see my kids grow up.
Besides, I don't want to be in a nursing home before my kids are making enough money to set me up in the nicest one