I can't argue with eyeballs. Just to give you an idea, I've had my wagon lowered to f390/r385, which was about half an inch from stock. Keeps wheel of popo clear of cats. MCA recommend, at least for their ProSports, f380mm/r375, so you can see why I think your riding low in the rear.
Very roughly, your stock springs will be f2.5kg/mm, r5.0kg/mm, or roughly 25nm/50nm. If you can obtain rates for springs your interested in, then that gives you a starting point, but how heavy a spring and what bias front and rear that would be optimum for B8's is anyone's guess.
Not sure where you bought them, but I doubt even places like Fulcrum typically would give you an honest answer, or any answer at all, as to a more suitable spring rate. Who ever the Aus importer is should have some freaking idea, since they pumped squillions of them out into the VE/VF market through places like Fulcrum, but sadly I would be doubtful that they'd offer that info, specific to the car they're going on. While I think of it, JHP has a King Spring height chart on their page for VE/VF. I don't think any brand will offer lower rate than stock, but everything I've looked at over the years seems very comfort orientated and not much firmer either. Can't remember if it was Dobinson's or someone else that did custom linear rate springs, but there won't be much comfort left if you went that route and you may run the risk of over springing it, though its an option if you were prepared to fit a few to find the right match. Regardless of what the seller/importer say, if you only want mild lowering, you'll be stuck with Kings anyway. Other brands mentioned that only offer one spring option really give you a lowered look, up to 40mm lower. For the purpose of aesthetics, I personally wouldn't be aiming to retain your 20mm bias front to rear either. Probably doesn't matter too much, but you'd be mixing and matching if you do, at least with Kings.