no one can make you do anything , they have technology on the plane and they knew the dangers of entering that air space and they quite easy could of gone around it . you can't blame it on the tower , i'm very sure if you got told by your boss to jump of a bridge you wouldn't do it , neither should they enter that area . They have got a tongue to say no that would put us at risk if we go with that route.
The correct road analogy to use would be one of a bridge... just not jumping off it. You speak as if the air traffic controllers had said to the pilot, "inbound missile, please fly directly at it!"
When you cross a bridge in a car, you trust that all the people involved in its creation, the architect, engineers, building contractors, etc have done their job properly. You are also crossing on the assumption that the road safety authority in your area has conducted regular structural integrity checks and inspections on the bridge. If the bridge collapses when you are on it, who do you blame? It would be highly impractical to spend 20 years training yourself in all the disciplines involved before conducting your own exhaustive inspection and only then making your decision to cross said bridge or not. You rely on the expertise of others.
Think of the alternative case. If the bridge has temporary fencing and road closed signs advising of unsafe conditions, the danger of collapse, and you still attempted to cross the bridge, who would you blame then when it collapsed?
Likewise as a pilot, you have your own field of expertise, flying the plane, you are not expected to be trained in the intricacies of international diplomacy, national security, military strategy or local politics. You rely on the expertise of others. How is the pilot supposed to know that rebel separatists have stolen a sophisticated surface to air missile system? This pilot did not have the benefit of making an informed decision. There was no "ROAD CLOSED" sign at 33,000 feet.
If you really force yourself to think for a change, before responding, I am sure that even someone as dense as yourself can eventually understand this basic concept of community and modern society.