update, this might help find out whats causing it, or not hahaha
on the weekend i did dome work on the ground of the car, i removed the old neg termanal and replaced it with a gold one, put a bigger gauge wire from the neg to the chasis and gave everything a bloody good clean, it worked wonders for my gauges, which were earthd were the stereo was earthd, i re wired the gauges directly to the neg termanal on the new gold bracket (it has 2 holes on it for 18 gauge wire, prseumibly for sterio or accessory grounding) and while i was at it i gave the ground for the stereo another bolldy good clean, filed the metal where it grounds to and the loop that it grounds with, it was nice ans shiney and clean.
however now the noise is worse! its gotten louder, and is more noticable, it was anoying befor but no big deal, not its horrible
im open to any and all suggesgions
i was thinking about grounding direct to the neg termanal (like the gauges) would that stop the whine??