Just to complete the thread - had a new 1700kg ATM single axle trailer built in WA, towed it across, loaded the boat on and towed it back. Tare weight 500kg on the way over and loaded weight ~1.3T on the way back. Removed the windscreen to keep windage to a minimum.
Monitored temps with Torq and saw a maximum ATF temp of 96°C in ambient of 34°C going through hills at 110kph. Most of the time it sat around 82-86°C on the open road with mid-30s ambients. No issues at all with the stock cooler.
Engine coolant temps were 81-86° and engine oil temp 98-104°C; the vast majority of the time was at the lower end of those ranges with the higher end being through sustained hills. Temps may have dropped lower at night but I wasn't really monitoring then.
I used cruise the whole way - 100kph in WA and 110kph in SA. Economy with the 3.6L V6 was:
Trailer only: 10.8L/100km @ 100kph; 12.2L/100km @ 110kph
Loaded: 12.0L/100km @ 100kph; 13.5L/100km @ 110kph
No attempt made at economy driving - I'd just hit cruise resume at town boundaries and tap the brake coming into the next town.