Red Diamond make good stallies which don't cost a rediculous amount of money like some other companies. They're also Australian which is a bonus so you can have it built custom and delivered quite quickly. As for the stall point itself - if you have a dyno sheet with torque graphed on it you can go off that, otherwise you need to do some maths on the cam. Basically like immortality said you want the stall point at the business end of your torque curve, so when you accelerate hard it will snap past the lower rpm straight into your torque band.
Don't worry about it driving differently with a stallie, it'll just slip under the stall point it's set at and drive quite normally - you'll only really notice it's there under harder acceleration.