Muzza,
I also had the same problem with my reversing sensors going bonkas, if I hook up my trailer and reverse. Mine is a genuine holden heavy duty hitch & reciever, the manual says that it automatically disables if a trailer plug is inserted (I wondered how, until ready someone's explanation earlier, using a read switch in the plug).
It seems my plug "reed switch" might be faulty (i checked my factory installed "Lumen" brand :my: trailer plug, and it does have a tiny sqaure magnet inside the lid, which suggest the reed switch activates when the lid moves), I will have to fault find it. There is an extra connector (near the tailight) labelled "VY trailer redd switch", so it must have the ability.
I normally remove my hitch from the receiver, and only insert it when towing, that solves it for non-trailer driving.
btw. whilst I agree with others that we should never rely on RPA (reverse park assist), it's an extra backup to hitting something, and as (sadly) NRMA recently noted the VY-VZ commodores rating worse than some 4WD for rear visions, I'm glad my VYII has it. I even want to install a reversing camera ... soon it will probably be law on new cars anyway.