simple Q. im broke, the missus b'day is coming up and i need to do something free or VERY cheap.
help?
effort and time is worth MUCH more than money mate.
if she's been your girlfriend for even a little while, she'll know you're broke regardless.... so spending too much will only make her feel guilty.
putting in a lot of thought and planning will go down MUCH better than spending $50-100 on crap.
what's her favourite food, colour, music, movie, place, flower, anything..... ?
what are your skills? can you draw? can you build stuff? what personal skills or talents can you put to good use? think!
even if its only computers.... there's photoshop (make something using scanned images), there's dvd ripping (make a slideshow with music and a special message or theme), do you have a camcorder?
there's gotta be something you know how to do or that you already own that can be put to good use.
can you sing? even if you cant, making a fool out of yourself professing your love to someone you know (and already knowing she loves you back) can be perfect.
how long you been together?
showing someone that you've taken up your time AND PREPARED IN ADVANCE shows them you havent just slapped together something on the day.... it'll go down a treat and earn you a crapload of brownie points.
where did you meet? is there something you can get from that place and incorporate into a tactile 'memory pack' that you can give to her (which would include a heartfelt letter or something).
I know all this crap sounds like a lot of hard work... but if you really think about it (think like a chick!), it doesnt have to cost anything but time.
But if you just rock up on the driveway with a hug and ribbon around your bellend, that aint gunna cut it mate.... that's a present for you not her
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something completely out of character.... for instance if you never dress up in a suit and never cook dinner, and have never romanced her properly (not just for sex- make her feel like a queen), DO IT!
if her birthday is on a weekday, all the better. she'll be out for the day working, so you can prepare properly.
and as a bonus, anything you can make from scratch yourself (cards, presents, keepsakes, photo colage of some sort) that obviously would have taken a bit of time to make, is terrific.
mind you- no need to turn into a powderpuff sensitive new age guy permanently.... but just one or two days per year as a special event is perfectly ok
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effort mate.... yeah I know it sucks wasting your time, but it'll go down 10 times better than spending even a couple of hundred bucks on some crap (especaially if she knows you cant afford it).
another easier option is to hock some of your crap. but that's the chump way.... spoil her mate. and not just for the possibility of sex afterwards. if she's a smart chick, she'll see in an instant the effort youve gone to... even if it doesnt go completely right on the day.
let us know how you go!
