Hey all,
First of all want t say a massive thank you to all your advice and support. That's why I love these forums.
So to kind of answer of few things that you all have brought up:
1) I never changed cards, direct debits payment details etc. The direct debit was setup to come out of my regular savings account which I have had for 10 years and still use. so zero changes.
2) Aami have admitted they have no proof of me receiving these "letters: notifying me of my lapsed payments and cancelled policy
3) Aami have also already admitted that they are currently using two systems for their policies (new one and old one) and they are not working well in unison and one systme says a letter has been sent, whilst the new system does not recognise this.
4) I have already proven to AAMI that I had EVERY intention of continuing my policy and never tried to get out of it.
AAMI called me yesterday and told me that the car is a write off. Engine is stuffed, gearbox and diff are stuffed. Panel damage, respray etc not worth it.. They have rejected my initial claim and I have already registered a new claim with their complaints department, if this gets cancelled then I will officially involve the ombudsman.
I feel very confident they will cover my claim. I have done some research and found others in my situation and they have had their claims honoured by AAMI. It's just a waiting game right now.
Thanks again everyone, I've had a pretty rough week and coming on here has made it far more manageable.