Depends on box ratio and how much it loves to rev. The manual falcons run 3.23 and 3.45 , skylines and silvias run 3.9-4.3 pending model and almost anything else jap is around 4:1 heaps of guys put shorter ratio diffs in falcons and never heard anyone complain. I swapped my 3.23s for 3.45 and wished they were 3.7's.
Yes the taller gears help spool but its not that larger difference at where it will spool and shorter gears are always heavily amplified by the butt dyno. Turbo or na it'll still make its peak power up top and being able to hop scream to scream will always feel more impressive. Sometimes will help with track numbers to pending spin and change speeds.
Some cars are faster with longer rear end ratios but they never feel as impressive in my opinion. I always like to aim for 60-70 out of 1st and 90-100 out of second ive found in street cars thats a great set up.
You are right about the speed in 1st & 2nd gears.
I guess I have had both ends of the scale, 2.73 in the falcon but I had 4.33 in the turbo ke20 (which was quick in 3rd and 4th gear but let down severely by too short 1st & even 2nd to a degree) so I always preferred the taller gears of the coon.
By chance they both had very similar power/weight ratio.
280rwkw/1715kg for the xr6t
130rwkw/860kg for the ke20